#AutismOblivious Families

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No matter how much certain families try. They will never achieve Autism Awareness. Why do I say this? Well as an Autistic person with Non-voting, non-active and Autism oblivious parents. I feel I have suffered an undue hardship.

I get more pressure for independence than I do help for survival. That is not autism awareness. It is a state of autism delusion that some families have. For example with my brother Matt when they sent him to the army. Most Autistic people should not be posted in Cold Lake Alberta where they submit to social isolation because it leads to drastic regression.

We can not pretend to be sophisticated about autism. While at the same time neglecting our community issues as soon as a pandemic is around. This is how I failed another living situation! This is also part of why Matt continues to live a very unfulfilling life. Some autistic people will never achieve full independence. In which case the idea of it must be dismissed.

I love my step Mom Tracy. Sometimes though she deserves an award for Autism oblivious. Why on earth did you think your son was a good fit for the army? I have always thought that many families have some kind of severe delusional detachment to suggest this solution.

The Pressure also arises from unfair expectations of independence and the idea for example that I as an autistic person can get my healthcare wherever I am. I can not… I need specific healthcare professionals under specific terms. Today my Dad showed a complete disregard for that in not printing my Medical Directive for the clinic.

Why my step mom isn’t allowed to do autism aware with me and she should probably stop all together? I think she uses it more as a leash than as a tool. I apparently surpass her autism awareness for miles. The fact that I knew how to treat autism + concussion shows me Matt must of had a hard childhood. Give your damn son some CBD when he goes off woman!

Let’s face it. The way my parents manage us. I have to go in alone if I go in by Autism Aware standards. There is just no way to make that livable. On top of that my Dad is either still considering what I am saying or ignoring it all together. For that I am just at the point where if I am ignored I will treat myself but I will give up on family unity. I am way more interested in the early commitment stages of my 2 year relationship showing themselves .This doesn’t mean I wasn’t Autism aware since 10. I am saying in regards to my family it doesn’t make a difference. They are just expecting me to act “normal”. Which I find? Just terribly pathetic.

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I’ve thought about this. It is a bit insane with we don’t as a community has a unified approach to Suicide Prevention yet. I have observed people trying the “If you commit Suicide I will get really mad.” approach, I know this isn’t an effective approach. Suicidal ideation is a healthcare emergency much like CPR is a healthcare emergency skill for basic life-saving.

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If we want to Sustain our community longer. We have to get on the same page about Suicide. I paid $20 for this course and with it at least I have a fighting chance at making a difference for myself and others. We need to change our culture around suicide to be healthier and more sustainable for our communities. If you are reading this there is something you can do to make a difference in our Social Culture.

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Transgender Fitness: How dance exercise helps with stereotypical feminine expression?

Ashton Deroy Writes: Hopefully this isn’t news for my readers but I identify as Gender Queer. I used to say in High School that the male gender was flexible enough for me to be feminine. Now I just identify as both masculine and feminine or in other words Gender Queer. Season 30 Episode 7 Werkin Mom Episode of the Simpsons, Homer Simpson says, “I guess these days it is okay for everyone to be everything.” Yeah, that sums up being genderqueer perfectly. Even though it is not as intellectual as one might want.

If I were training a Transgender Female client at a gym. I would recommend Zumba & Dance workouts. As far as learning & mastering forms of feminine expression. I can think of no better workout than dance for Transgender women to learn more feminine mannerisms. In fact, dance as a feminine expression can be traced back as a feminine expression as far as the Veiled dancers in 100 BC. From what I can gather from the artwork below the Veiled dancer was majestic & a form of performance artist for their time.

Veiled dancer

For me personally, dance exercise shows me what feminine moves I can do and which ones I can’t do. I have to keep my queer flame going as lively as possible. To me that isn’t going to be done with the butch workouts I do to tone my arms. I need a little loose expression, I need to shake my hips and move my feet. Also as an added bonus dance exercises have added a little bounce to my walk. This way I do not look as miserable when I am walking.

Besides dance, you may want to focus on workouts that shape particular areas of your body. I suggest mostly focussing on core & hips. Since many people born male didn’t grow up using a dance that worked from these areas of the body. They often don’t know how to do the feminine dancing from these movements outward. For me, it has been about 4 years of self-practicing dance and I have only now just finally gotten a little more flexibility in my hips.

Here are some more benefits of Dance exercise:

  1. Improved function of your heart & lungs
  2. Improving muscle tone & even strength
  3. Increased physical confidence
  4. Better social skills
  5. Improved balance
  6. Increased aerobic fitness
  7. Weight Management

According to Better Health 

I can’t say enough about the benefits of dance! I get giddy just thinking about how good it is for you. I think of dance as the spiritual equivalent of brushing your teeth. The best reason to dance is to nurture your own soul.

Now if you are not a Transgender female or even genderqueer, but you still are intrigued at the prospect of dance exercise. I still say go for it! The purpose of this article is to get people thinking about the types of recommendations we can make for the purpose of Transgender fitness. I also think my readers would be interested to know that I don’t just focus on learning the masculine movements of fighting. I also focus on learning the feminine movements of the art of dance.

No excuses readers, go out there & start dancing! 😀