Ashton Deroy writes: It is okay to have a traditional family. Or even a Conservative family. I will never try to make that argument. I grew up with a father whose parenting style I’d describe as Libertarian and a mother’s parenting style that was a mix of traditional liberal and discipline for applying focus in learning the language.
Just like parents set the culture for you when you are younger. You have to sustain or provide a new culture for them as they get older. One of the things I am passionate about is my values for Socialism and equal society. The value associated with that just seems a more appropriate strategy for survival and maintaining a community-style culture. There is also a load of included Sustainability values which are a bonus in an era where we really want to care about this type of thing.
Pillar 1 – You have to come out.
I don’t even necessarily mean come out of the closet but yes that helps to. You have to also say where your values are and be true to yourself. One of the things I had to draw a line in the sand with regards to other relatives related to me was respect for how my sister was dressing. I have Socialist feminist values in regard to dignity and standards for which you treat others. I had felt that wasn’t being respected or acknowledged.( My sister’s self esteem seemed obliterated. Not fun to see. She should speak of her feelings if she finds the urge. Or be private if she chooses.) I have an opinion as a “Progressive”.
Pillar 2 – Compromise and collaborate.
I have a fairly flexible tolerance for humor. However, I will state when something passes the offensive or cringe place with me. I am autistic and I will admit it can contribute to being a bit over sensitive. However, my Dad and I can agree sometimes that we find Bob’s Burgers more watchable than Family Guy.
Pillar 3 – Set boundaries.
Materialistic & possessive values really get on my nerves!
Yet for some reason, I had the patience to get a Business Diploma at Loyalist College. A school where everyone but I skipped the Sustainability & Social Responsibility class.
After school though I say my highly progressive values from High School just cracked through a foggy glass. The Liberal Capitalist ideology associated with me thinking Donald Trump was cool, was being replaced by the ideological Social Democrat values that were truer to myself. If someone hits me with difficult materialistic value messages in Facebook messenger my brain goes into defensive mode, It says”we’ve been in that mindset and we hated it!”.
I have no issue with grind or sustainable upward economic mobility. Never think that about me. I do have a problem with the unadvanced ideals of the hacking beyond needing to work through Capitalism, socialism, or marriage. Working builds character & advances the community as a whole. It should only be avoided if absolutely necessary.
I have a big issue with a common example of an interpersonal moral/economic debate which is marrying for wealth debates. Hypothetical conversations on the pursuit of marriage as a means for achieving wealth. (I hate these conversations They are way too regressive.) I don’t encourage “Cinderella syndrome”. 2 reasons for that. I believe in equal collaborative marriages & I believe in long term dating. (Sometimes it is okay if you don’t contribute to the wedding industry as a generation.)
My answer to the Argument:
I morally oppose the execution of marriage for the sole purpose of upward Economic mobility. It conflicts with personal psychological values around intimacy. As well as contributes to poor cohabitation strategies. Ultimately it seems like people in these marriages for wealth arrangements have separate understandings of the marriage than their partner. It just seems wrong and unhealthy in so many ways to be greedy in pursuit of love.
With my message to friends and family.
If Materialistic conversations come up. Or valuing one’s self-based on material possessions. e.g. Owning a house, owning a car & buying a brand named fashion. I keep saying I am utilitarian I just want to manage resources for the common good. Honestly, that has been my self reason to say stuff like “stop smoking!” & Learn College level math and Business functions. Unfortunately, if someone is too materialistic or too much of an economic Capitalist. We will likely culturally clash.
If you read this. Or If you are a Millenial. Then you are likely a weird classical Libertarian or a Socialist to have any kind of interest in my page. Or you are a frequent reader, stoner or weirded out relative. I don’t care… Send me a message. Be civil please but send a message. I know some of our readers will always be closet progressives or Socialists/Social Reformists. Just know I hold you all in equal regard & value to the community. Our ideas of equality are a bit ridiculed but I have faith in a more progressive and advanced society.